Will I Ever Love Someone Like My Partner Up In Heaven?
While everyone has a different answer to this question. Most will say No. I will never love anyone like my partner up in heaven. Well, I am here to tell you that you are right. You will NEVER love anyone like your partner up in heaven. That's the honest truth. Nor would you want to.
You see every experience is different. Every love is different. For those that have lost their partners after meeting in high school and spending many years together, there is no possible way you could ever recreate the love you experienced when you were in your 20's and 30's.
Now having said that.
Can it be just as good? Absolutely!
But it will never be the same.
And the truth is I would not want it to be the same. My husband can NEVER nor will he EVER be replaced. Nor, would I want to love anyone as I love him.
That was our special bond, our special love that we had for one another.
I will give you an example. I meet my husband at age 17. We were both in high school and still growing up. We got married at 17. And although I felt at home right from the start with this man we still had a lot of growing up to do. There was an incredible love and lust as all couples have at that age. Through the years we learned about ourselves and we learned about each other. We bonded more each day we were together. And in our 31 years together we evolved, not only as a couple but as individuals as well.
But then something happened in my life. Something I never thought I would do again. I fell in love again! This amazing man called Bill came into my life. And while I fought the fact of loving him for a while, I could not stop my heart from loving him. He was kind, with this incredible giving heart, knows how to treat a woman... so many qualities like my JR had.
Now we fast forward to the present. Bill has been in my life now over 5 years. And as my husband now going on 3 years. During our time together we have bonded a lot. I share a bond with Bill that I did not share with my JR. And I shared a bond with JR that I do not share with Bill.
You see each relationship is different.
I meet Bill in my late 40's, and I was a widow. He was in his late 40's and also a widower. We did not grow up together. We were adults when we meet. We knew who we were already. We knew what we wanted from life. We knew what we wanted in a relationship because we have been there already. And we both know what Loss is. We share a special bond together of loss and many others ones that I did not experience with my JR.
So our love is special in its own way too.
JR was there for me in a time that I was getting out of an abusive house and relationship. He was there for me in so many things throughout our 31 years together. We started our own company together, bought our first house together and so many other things.
But Bill has been there too. But in different situations and circumstances. And each year we are together our bond becomes even deeper. We are both looking forward to retirement in the next couple of years, traveling together, sitting in Barnes and Noble drinking coffee all day, reading books and me writing articles for my magazine.
A completely different journey than with JR when we were both starting our careers, working together, saving money to buy a house and evolving as people too.
So you see my relationship with Bill is very different from my relationship with JR. One is not better than the other.
Loving someone again will not stop you from continuing to love your partner in heaven.
You will NEVER forget that person.
It's just something that just does not happen no matter how many times you give your heart away. That person is engraved in your heart forever. And no death, no person or situation could ever take that away from you.
But what is important to remember as widows and widowers to try not to compare your partner in heaven to your new one. The fact is that you will NEVER have the same experience or exact LOVE for that new person as you had for your partner in heaven. But, what I will say is that it can be just as good. Just as deep. We can love someone again with the same amount of depth. Our hearts are that big and the love we have inside is that much if you find the right partner.
JR was my first chapter in my life.
But Bill is the second chapter in what will be my last chapter in my life.
I love them both with all my heart. Both of them will FOREVER hold a very special place in my heart. Both are different kinds of Love.. and yet both are unique and special in their own way.
So for those out there afraid to love again. Afraid that you will never love someone like your partner. Don't be..
The truth is you will NOT love them the same because the love will be different due to the experiences you will be sharing together, whether it's through widowhood or because you are much older now or maybe both.
You will NEVER love the same again.
But with the right person is can be just as deep and good as it was with your late partner.