By Vivienne R Reich
Many feel that when they see other widows find joy again that they are not strong like them. They compare the way that Widow feels now to themselves. At that moment when someone reads a happy post or a widow that is sharing some happy news, there may be a voice in your head that says..." I Am Not As Strong As She Is" "I Can't Do This"
But I'm here as one of those that had that voice speak to me. Telling me I was NOT strong enough for this. Telling me that I will NEVER be able to be happy again.
But I am here to tell you this....
You got up today right? That's Being Strong!!
Being Strong is NOT about facing the world without FEAR
Being Strong is NOT about facing the world without TEARS.
Being Strong IS about CRYING.
Being Strong IS about thinking of DYING.
Being Strong IS about wanting to Stop TRYING.
You might ask how can this possibly be Being Strong?
Because Everyone That You Think Is Strong Today Has Had Days,
Weeks And Months That They Have Felt Like YOU Do Today!!
And When They Felt Like That They Did Just What YOU Are Doing Today....
They Just Sat and Cried.
They Felt All Alone Yet Got Up That Day.
They Opened Their Eyes and Breathed That Day.
They Braced Themselves For Another Day Of Pain.
They Posted How Lonely and Alone They Felt.
So If Today..
You woke up crying...
YOU woke up!!
You felt alone and tired.
You posted how bad you feel.
That is STRENGTH..
STRENGTH that no matter how small those steps seem they are steps in the right direction.
STRENGTH that no matter how bad you felt doing things YOU did them.
STRENGTH that even if you just got up and took a breath today. YOU got up!!
That IS STRENGTH!
That IS Being STRONG!
You Being Strong Is NOT Measured In How Happy You Feel Today.
You Being Strong Is NOT Measured On How Many Accomplishments You Have Done After He Died.
YOU BEING STRONG IS ABOUT JUST BEING HERE.
STILL BEING HERE EVEN AFTER ALL THAT HAS GONE WRONG IN YOUR LIFE.
YOU BEING STRONG IS NOT MEASURED BY HOW MANY SAD DAYS YOU ARE HAVING.
Just Know That Sadness.. Is YOU being STRONG!
Those tears... Is YOU being STRONG!
Even If All You Did Was Open Your Eyes And Stayed In Bed!
That's Being STRONG !!
So just know from one widow that has been there....
"YOU ARE STRONGER THAN YOU THINK"
You DO have the STRENGHT you need to Make it!!
I Promise YOU that !!
And YOU WILL MAKE IT!!
Just give yourself permission to be sad and feel like giving up.
It's Ok.. That's NOT Weakness.. That is STRENGHT !!
God Bless You All,